I love you.
I love you..
I love you...
.. hey man ! wait wait. I am not proposing anyone through my blog. (Really?)
Rather it is the most frequent sentence used among teenagers in India.These words are primary steps to start any interesting relation ;-).
let's dig into this relationship chapter.
[Story 1]
First day of XYZ collage of Engineering. (Math classroom)
All good looking girls sat in first few chairs and all guys were back bench er.
A teacher came and started the theory of probability. As you know the theory of probability has always probability of understanding.Very few understood the theory. At the end of the class everybody started moving to corridor for next class. Suddenly some voice was heard. "Hey Sidhardh! do you have notes on the probability? Do you help me to understand it". A guy fell back from the group, waiting for the source of voice.
After few days the couple find their recognition in college. :-)
[Story 2]
First day in office. Breakfast time. There was long queue in front of the breakfast counter.
A guy, standing in the queue, looking at someone, made a comment. "These guys are delaying too much to wait. We should complain to higher authority." The reply came "Certainly. We should complain it. Do you know the contact number?". Conversation started...
After few years later, common friends find them as married couple.
There are lot of incidents through which people choose their life partners. To find life partner, the sentence "I love you" plays an important role and thus the "Love Marriage" signed it's signature.
People who did love marriage gives lots of arguments. Lets listen some of them.
"In love marriage, you can judge a person over a period time. How could you get married to someone whom you don't know. You can't take life long decision in just few hours."
"Love marriage is sooooooo sweet. Everyone should do Love Marriage!"
"Love is the strongest sentiment that keeps you young in your relationship. Love marriage is the best thing in this world!"
"We live in 21st century. We should have freedom to choose our own destiny and Love Marriage is part of it."
OK, friends. Lets do an open heart surgery of "Love Marriage" and "Arrange Marriage".
Marriage is an event to start a new relationship.Did you ever think about why most of us expect the marriage to be a memorable one? Can anybody thought of his or her marriage to be a silent simple court registration? It does not matter whether it is a "Love Marriage" or "Arranged Marriage".The answer would be 'NO'.
Some people would say ! "Hey stupid. Didn't you heard of Living together in 21st century?"
My answer would be "Hey dude! do you know the difference between Living together and a Marriage?"
You would say "Live-together is a modernize concept. If you like someone, start living with him/her. No need to do marriage. If you don't like him/her .. just leave him. No legal botheration. It is a concept from West and we can learn a lot from them.
Well friend! whatever you told is correct. It is human-mind generated. Let's looks at it from a different angle. Like in "Love Marriage" a couple is known to each other in living-together relationship.
One can admit that it is not possible to know 100% of a person in just a 4/5 years of relationship. Thus any wrong thing could happen after the marriage as well. Here 'Living relationship' comes into rescue. Here you can leave the partner. If it doesn't happen then you can live happily with your partner like in Marriages(Doesn't matter if it is a Arrange Marriage or Love Marriage)
Thus an event of marriage has a social touch along with legal one. If some misunderstanding happen after marriage it is the social and legal bond that make you compel to adjust with the situation and will taught you
the biggest lesson of life "You could not get whatever you expect." This lesson couldn't be taught in "Living relationship", thus making the divorce rate high.
So friends in "Love Marriage" you could know a person before marriage but could only understand him/her after marriage and thus it is not a different from arrange marriage .. where we start from ;-)
[Disclaimer: It is just a thought. It is not for the purpose to hurt anyone]
